Have you ever wished you were that parent? You know the one I’m talking about. The one with the adorable, well-mannered kids. The one who always looks good, and clearly has a beautifully clean home because Instagram says so. They just seem to ooze zen and got-my-ish-together-ness. Don’t you wish you could be like them?
I have a secret, and it’s one you already know. Parenthood isn’t all zen and rainbows. Of course, there are those times when things are just going right. Everything is blissful and great. And then there’s the times when the baby won’t stop crying and the toddler has become Picasso on your walls, and there’s dishes in the sink and laundry to be folded and you know you have cold coffee sitting somewhere and… You know what I’m talking about. I know you do. You’re human!
You are beautifully, wonderfully human.
I have another secret. I love that about you. And I love that about me. In fact, love that about all of us imperfect parents, running around after the tiny loves of our lives. We do our best with what we are given.
Some days, zen is so easy to achieve. Kids behaved? Check! House clean? Check! Enough time in the day to do my hair, makeup, AND do something I enjoy? Check!
Other days, Zen may as well be a distant planet that NASA is on the verge of discovering through a telescope. We feel worn out, run down. At the end of our ropes. And when we look at those smiling, peace-filled, health conscious, clean-home parents on social media, it can be a blow to our ego. “How can they keep it so together, when I’m over here falling apart? What’s their secret?” you wonder.
They are not zen 100% of the time. I promise.
Celebrities and social media icons are human too. Just like us, they have rough days. They may struggle a bit. They may have to bite their tongue when their toddler takes off ANOTHER poopy diaper and hides it (or is that just my kid?). Or… maybe they don’t bite their tongue. Maybe words fly out in an angry tone before they can stop it. Maybe there are tears, facepalms, and deep sighs of frustration. Who knows. But I promise- even the perfect social media parents have off days.
The long and short of it?
You are not alone.
We are all on this hunt for Zen together. And hey, if you get there first… save me a seat?